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“Bad Relationship of Parents and Its Impact on The Relationship of Children”

This is the cruel reality, or you can say the unfortunate, that I am writing on this topic, that is “Bad Relationship of Parents and Its Impact on The Relationship of Children”. I have heard a lot, many pseudo-intellectuals on TV talk that bad relationships of parents also spoil the lives of the children. But I want to mention another less mentioned but painful reality that bad relationships of the parents also spoil the relationships among their children. Father is like the leader of the house. Children may argue on many things with their mother but mostly they remain restraint with their parents. This is a beautiful reality that mother loves a lot to their children, regardless of how much bad relationship she has with her husband. When parents fight with each other, then children use it to get an undue advantage. They know the mother is soft-hearted, so they ask for undue favors from their mother; knowing that their father will fight their mother due to this but they also know that father always fight their mother anyway so they should get undue favors.
These things also impact the grooming of the children. The children never get to know what is the normal relationship between them. In normal relationship among children, they too fight each other but they do love each other too. But due to continuous fighting between parents, children get used to the continuous tense environment in the home so they do not share with each other such things that they should share with each other. They do share such things with outsiders that they should not do because parents and siblings are for this purpose, but how this can happen when parents have a bad relationship.
Another thing that I like to tell is that parents know that one day they will get old and at that time they will need their children. The mother who is already soft-hearted towards their children and children are also near to their mother, so they do not like when their father fight with their mother and sometimes they argue with their father too, but for how long? The children know that they have to live in the same house and mother knows this too. So, time kept passing in this restlessness. Now it happens that parents also need the support of their children for their daily life. Now the child who supports a parent is good in its eyes the other child is bad. This thing divides the children and they also fight with each other; ultimately the affection among the children also finishes and their relationship becomes on-need basis. They still do love with each other but not like the way it should be.
This entire situation is more harmful in a sense that when children become adults and if they are girls; they want to do something for their future, they have passion but due to the lack of the support of parents, they cannot do anything. They really want to do something. Their passion never gets away because they do not have the support of their parents. This creates an Inferiority complex in children, they became hopeless, do not get respect in society, they lose decision making power, they cannot face people, they want to remain alone, and their mind starts getting negative ideas. I want to clarify one thing that all this mostly happens in such homes where the father does not take care of their children, do not take responsibility of their children and use the fight as a mean to avoid household responsibilities.
Sometimes, I think that why it all happens? Why parents fight with each other? A reason comes in mind that when parents fight with each other; it impacts the mental growth of their children. When such children become adult and get married; they do not have the ability to properly trust their partner and they have the same bad relationship as of their parents; this goes on and on for generations…. Other reasons are the impact of bad society on adults, inferiority complex, and lack of attention from parents. Due to all this, parents not only spend their own life in sorrow but also destroy the lives of their children and many more generations to come.

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